Quality bonding experiences help your baby’s brain develop and help develop a healthy mind. These experiences can be provided by both the mother and the father.
Today we know, thanks to neurosciences and psychology , that the mind is built on the quality of the bonds that we establish in the first stages of life . The first years of growth are essential for the baby to grow and develop properly.
It will be at this stage of life when the person develops fundamental capacities such as: emotional control, attachment and social connection, security to face life, etc.
Links that influence baby’s development
In the early stages of life, and to facilitate healthy development, certain links with the environment are essential, both on the part of the mother and the father. Everything will depend on the degree of involvement of the parents to interact and stimulate their child.
The voice and the way of speaking
Babies under 2 years of age have not developed the ability to memorize episodes of their life, but they are capable of recalling rewarding experiences (affective-emotional) with adults. This requires talking and interacting with him. Although he cannot understand the meaning of what is said to him, the musicality of the voice, the tone, the softness with which they address him, nourish his brain and facilitate healthy development.
The security that is transmitted to the baby is fundamental so that the future baby can trust, feel protected and safe. This influences the formation of the ego giving it stability.
The interactions that make up this type of bond are characterized by knowing that the other will respond when needed.
Experiences of emotional connection
From babies we are born with a mirror neuron system that prepares us to establish bonds with other people. Mirror neurons have a strong connection capacity to the point that, if you are in front of a person who is sad, certain areas of the brain related to sadness will be activated in you.
Mutual regulation of affect
It begins from the moment of birth with the contact, above all, of parents and close relatives. However, in the case of infants, the first affective experience occurs with breastfeeding between mother and child.
This will over time make the child able to regulate his emotions on his own.
What you should know…
- Neuroscience and psychology question these ideals and the fact that only the mother’s bond counts in the early stages of life.
- The affective regulation experiences will occur with the father also to the extent that he is involved in the interaction and cultivates moments of harmony with his son.